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Ask, then read the face

Curious, at their pace.

SEWe reviewed the research on it.Meeting people

Hand-drawn diagram of framework 353, Ask, then read the face: Curious, at their pace.
Framework 353 · in one look
How to use it

Curiosity is the point, not the number of questions. After a personal question, watch: a lean back, crossed arms, a tight face means too much, too fast. Take the ball back with a story of your own and go at their pace. Some people want to listen, not be interviewed.

How sure we are

S Evidence: strong. Large trials or many studies, pointing the same way.

E Evidence: built from practice. What works for coaches and practitioners. Labelled that way.

Sources

Follow-up questions raised liking because they signal you're listening (Huang et al. 2017, 🟢) · reading the cues and "go at their pace": Vanessa Van Edwards (🟠) · see 13, 228.

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