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Your nerves are quieter than you think

They can't see your nerves nearly as much as you feel them.

PSWe reviewed the research on it.Speaking, presence and the camera

Hand-drawn diagram of framework 38, Your nerves are quieter than you think: They can't see your nerves nearly as much as you feel them.
Framework 38 · in one look
How to use it

Before you speak or film, remember: people can't see your nerves nearly as much as you feel them. Then use stress as fuel (Mind, 20).

How sure we are

P Evidence: promising. Good studies, but small or few. Use it and keep checking.

S Evidence: strong. Large trials or many studies, pointing the same way.

Sources

Savitsky & Gilovich 2003 (the illusion of transparency) · Yeager et al. 2022 · people overestimate how much others notice them at all (the spotlight effect, Gilovich et al. 2000, 🟡).

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