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Convergence, not admiration

Shared deep values, not admired traits.

SEWe reviewed the research on it.Friendship and the people around you

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How to use it

For a partner, a close friend or a co-founder, admiring what someone does isn't fit. Check that you converge on the deep things (money, comfort vs challenge, humour, how they treat animals and people), and watch who they are around others.

How sure we are

S Evidence: strong. Large trials or many studies, pointing the same way.

E Evidence: built from practice. What works for coaches and practitioners. Labelled that way.

Sources

Similarity, especially perceived similarity, is linked with attraction (Montoya, Horton & Kirchner 2008, meta-analysis) · Greene (🟠).

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