Say hi first — a framework by Ole Wang

Hand-drawn diagram of framework 52, Say hi first: One stranger a day. The log shows the gap between fear and reality. — Framework 52 · in one look

How to use it

Strangers want to talk more than you predict, and conversations with them go better than people expect. One stranger conversation a day: predict how it'll go, then log how it went. Over weeks the log shows the gap between fear and reality.

How sure we are

P Evidence: promising. Good studies, but small or few. Use it and keep checking.

Sources

Epley & Schroeder 2014 · Sandstrom & Boothby 2021 (9 experiments).

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