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The second question

Two follow-ups before you change topic. Being liked mostly means being interested.

SWe reviewed the research on it.Meeting people

How to use it

Before you change topic, ask two follow-up questions about what they just said. People who asked more questions, especially follow-ups, were liked more, including in speed dating. Being liked mostly means being interested.

How sure we are

S Evidence: strong. Large trials or many studies, pointing the same way.

Sources

Huang et al. 2017 (confirmed by an independent 2025 audit) · Yeomans et al. 2019.

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