They liked you more than you think — a framework by Ole Wang

Hand-drawn diagram of framework 51, They liked you more than you think: After a conversation, assume they liked you more than it felt. — Framework 51 · in one look

How to use it

After a conversation, your brain under-rates how it went, especially if you're shy. Correct for it on purpose: assume they liked you more, and follow up within 24 hours. Judge by what they do next, not by your replay.

How sure we are

S Evidence: strong. Large trials or many studies, pointing the same way.

P Evidence: promising. Good studies, but small or few. Use it and keep checking.

Sources

Boothby et al. 2018 (5 studies, held for months) · Huang et al. 2017.

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