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Set the tone early

Firm first, friendly after. Address the first slip.

EWe reviewed the research on it.Teaching and leading people

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How to use it

It's easier to start clear and firm and then loosen up than to start as everyone's friend and try to tighten later. In a team, a Skool group or a crew: say the standard on day one, and address the first slip the first time, calmly, with a question ("walk me through it").

How sure we are

E Evidence: built from practice. What works for coaches and practitioners. Labelled that way.

Sources

Evy Poumpouras, quoting a former CIA chief of station (🟠) · see 171: pin the rules where newcomers land.

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