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Reason plus choice

Give the reason and the choice. Bossy words make people push back.

SWe reviewed the research on it.Hard conversations

How to use it

Swap "you need to", "stop" and "must" for the reason and the choice: "here's why it worked for me, take what fits." Bossy language makes people push back.

How sure we are

S Evidence: strong. Large trials or many studies, pointing the same way.

Sources

reactance meta-analysis.

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