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Go first

Everyone in a new room is waiting. The first one to walk over collects the friendships.

SWe reviewed the research on it.Meeting people

Hand-drawn diagram of framework 11, Go first: Everyone in a new room is waiting. The first one to walk over collects the friendships.
Framework 11 · in one look
How to use it

In any new room, everyone underestimates how much they'll be liked. The first one to walk over collects the friendships.

How sure we are

S Evidence: strong. Large trials or many studies, pointing the same way.

Sources

Boothby et al. 2018 (the liking gap) · Sprecher 2025 (replication).

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