Frameworks · Social · 296

The envy check

Turn the sting into a goal.

PEWe reviewed the research on it.Being honest about yourself

Hand-drawn diagram of framework 296, The envy check: Turn the sting into a goal.
Framework 296 · in one look
How to use it

When someone's win stings, write one line: "What exactly do I want here?" Turn the sting into a goal, never into wanting them to fall. Compare yourself with yesterday's you.

How sure we are

P Evidence: promising. Good studies, but small or few. Use it and keep checking.

E Evidence: built from practice. What works for coaches and practitioners. Labelled that way.

Sources

Benign envy motivated improvement, malicious envy didn't (van de Ven et al. 2009, 2011, 🟡) · Conti; Lieberman (🟠).

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