Friendly first. Anything unsafe for minors goes straight to removal.

A private friendly note first, then a public reminder, then a time-out, and removal only for repeats or serious harm (anything unsafe for minors goes straight to removal). Members help write the rules, and there's a fast way to appeal.
E Evidence: built from practice. What works for coaches and practitioners. Labelled that way.
P Evidence: promising. Good studies, but small or few. Use it and keep checking.
Kiesler et al. 2012 · Ostrom 1990 (commons research, by analogy).
Not medical, legal or financial advice.
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